Okay, strike that last post. Not completely, but….
Friday at 3pm, Ace, Champ, and The Baby went to fictive kin (a neighbor of the paternal aunt).
THEN, at 8:32, I get a phone call. It was a number from out of the area, so I didn’t answer it. So then at 8:33, I get a text from the number. “This is K*******, I have a sibling group of 3 for you if you’re interested.” I call her back. 3yo boy, 2yo girl, and 3month old girl. The only information was that the baby had medication for reflux. Because the children were from a little bit away AND would have longer visits because of the baby, I asked about transportation responsibilities. That information wasn’t available. K******* asked me what I could do in regards to that so that she could respond to Central Processing that I would accept the children under the condition that I could transport for visitation no more often that X times per month. I hate to do that, but I do have five other children (though two are adults). I have to do what I have to do.
About 10 minutes later, I got an email from our old program direction, J (now in some other supervisory position in relation to licensing us, but I’m not sure what all she does). She sends me the short apps on each child. Again, looks fine. I said, “yes.”
A few minutes later, I get a call that Central Processing accepted us, just waiting on the caseworker. She gets back shortly and they said they’d be here between 11 and 11:30 (it was almost midnight).
So we have:
Professor, the 3yo boy who is smart as a whip and really a neat kid. He seems five in many ways. He isn’t as fearless as his sister but he won’t be shown up by her either.
Doc (as in McStuffins) is the 2yo girl. Again, super smart and cool kid, also seeming older than she is, actually, older than her brother. She is fearless!
Lastly we have Turtle, the 3month old. She’s such a good sweet baby. She sleeps way too much, but when she is awake, she’s all smiles.
Would it surprise any foster parent out there that we didn’t get all of the known information? For example, it was known that the baby had a cleft lip. You can’t look at her and not notice that. So why wasn’t it shared? She also has another condition. Now, CPS may not have known what that condition was, but they certainly knew how it presented, as well as that it would scare a caregiver something awful. Add a feeding issue (not related to the lip), reflux, failure to thrive including hospitalizations. Then certain aspects of why the children were removed to consider should have been disclosed also. Because of their ages, I probably would have still taken them; but two of the issues are those I would have preferred to have had the choice about taking.
THEN, I take the baby to the doctor and find out something REALLY scary, like, “ummm, I’m not sure I can handle this, or WANT to” scary, like, “What if she dies on my watch?” It really is a tempered fear and one with warning signs, but STILL!
So again, a situation where more information was not disclosed in order to get the placement.
The investigator was actually told they wouldn’t be able to place the children together. So maybe that was part of the reason for down playing the issues a little. However, the children were coming from two days in a kinship placement. And what if I didn’t feel like I could deal with the issues (on top of normal foster kiddo and individual stuff)? That would really stink if the kids had THREE placements in less than a week in care!
But we sure will be busy! Really busy!