So, I am sorry I have delayed so many posts. You should see all the posts swimming in my head. It is just very difficult for me to get time to write some days. I started off this placement with extreme grief about Monkey. In no way were we really ready for more kids. I thought we were, but….Or maybe we are ready as it has worked out fine, just had to get over a major road block to do it.
Anyway, it is working out. The children are awesome and most days with them have been fine.
Ace is 4½ years old. He has been quite a mystery to me. He came with extreme delays and some interesting “symptoms” of *something.* He tested MR with hints of this mental issue or that. I poo-poo’d that idea right away. Someone mentioned, “maybe autism spectrum” with the reminder that milder forms may look different. Hmmmm. That suggestion made me wonder if it is all trauma as we’ve now seen several examples of PTSD that seem like autism in times of stress. I would guess that coming into care would be a time of stress. I still haven’t figured it out. I know that some of his behaviors were learned (and unlearned). I know that some behaviors (and lack of skills) were due to circumstances. I know that he is an extremely quick learner if you can find what he needs for you to reach him. Anyway, so he has been a mystery in terms of what is going on with him. The psych report done at the children’s shelter is useless. My agency agrees with my want of a full psychological/developmental assessment by a certain psychologist. They aren’t so keen on me waiting til August to give the little guy a little more time to settle in, relax, etc. It’ll also be easier to show the insurance why they should pay again if we wait.
So Ace started preschool last week. He went only two days and he’ll have two days this week. Next week, he’ll start Monday, Wednesday, Friday. He has done well there, is playing with the other children. We’ll see how it goes. He likes the duplo blocks the best. Of course, balls are great. He was very capable on the playground so I was a bit surprised when he seemed so awkward on the balance bike. I told him once he can do it “like Swimmer” (with example), I’ll buy him a bike. He likes the idea of a bike of his own. He is testing a little, just little things, just a “what will happen if” thing. What will happen if I look at you and push the button on this thing you told me not to touch? But considering how he was when he got here, that is nothing; so we’ll take it 🙂
Champ is a Mini-Ace. It is really a weird relationship. It is obvious they’ve relied on each other for protection, comfort, companionship. Of course, that would be normal for brothers close in age anyway; but this is to an extreme. What we’ve found interesting is that it goes both ways. In some ways, possibly because Champ is developmentally closer to typical, Champ seems like the big brother. But then there is the toddler/preschool learning aspect where Champ is following his big brother’s lead. In many ways, it is very similar to the unhealthy relationship my three had with one another, especially the part where they keep other people out. One big positive is that they do recognize they are separate people.
Anyway, Champ has really taken to me and I to him. Honestly, I think he is probably the reason I pushed through at very first. He’s a beautiful child with the most endearing smile. We had to work a little to get it at first, but now he regularly uses his cuteness to engage people. He loves to mini-trampoline (it is a kids’ one with handles). He mostly stays back and watches people. He’ll take toys they hand him though. He likes cars though and will regularly carry one around. He doesn’t talk much but when he does, it is full understandable sentences. I think he was honeymooning though as the last couple days, he’s had a lot more tears and behavior.
Then there is The Baby. She is the sweetest baby ever. Had I ever had a baby like this, I probably never would have said, “no more babies!” Seriously. She’s a good good baby. She is always checking things out. She seems wise beyond her years or something. She draws you in, engages you in conversation and play. It is really neat. She does have some stress reactions. For example, no one else sees how wonderful she is but us. She goes “flat” for an audience. For my son? He’ll lean his head into her and she’ll tap his head with hers. I was really surprised she learned to do that so young! She is most attached to me, making it clear she’s not happy if I leave the room (“I’ll be right back. I’m gonna go get…”). Oh, and she is addicted to tv. I have never seen a baby who watches tv! Monkey wouldn’t watch anything on tv except Sparkabilities at 20 months.
She really is delayed. We have feeding therapy and the developmental specialist currently. The Dev Spec comes for communication and mobility. THis week the physical therapist is coming out for an evaluation. The OT said she didn’t qualify when she was in the children’s shelter, but will come back out in June for another eval. We also have a private speech and physical therapist coming for evaluations. We’ll have to choose who does the services depending on availability. Typically, I choose private because they give significantly more time to us. However, I’ve been around the block a time or two so can work with her as we’re in this inbetween time. This past week, I got her to do a “barely-assisted” roll one direction (she can’t do it the other for whatever reason). Mostly, she is just a happy baby 🙂
So recently, we decided to take the kids fishing when a town not too far away had a fishing event for children.
This is the only thing caught. It was caught by Ace.
This is my crew.
A local “family” I thought were cute:
We weren’t the biggest family there!
Actually, we weren’t the biggest family anyway though. First off, my two big kids didn’t go. Second, when I was registering my crew, the guy told me one lady registered nine children. I only registered five (the baby didn’t count).
So hopefully I’ll get some of these posts from my head to the blog. I have exciting news about Heidi. Homeschooling has taken a back burner on my blog but should get more press. I have three reviews (two for Mosaic Reviews, one just being a product I’m glad I bought) to post soon. Crossfit and diet have slipped, but…
Of course, blogs have periods of more and less activities as life goes on. Hopefully, I’ll be able to document a little of it though! I have rarely wished I didn’t post something. I’ve often wished I would have recorded X when it happened, especially when it is about kids who then progress to Y.