This seemed like a good blog entry to repost today. Two of my kids have jumped off the deep end. At the same time, I’m so amazed by them all the time! It is the weirdest thing to reconcile in my head sometimes.
It’s so easy….
to be negative sometimes. I worry about my children, their trauma, their attachment SO MUCH. But I want to be sure not to miss all the positive! They have grown so incredibly much! So often, it is things we just forget or were slow in progressing that we remember.
I remember, for example, having a talk with one’s teacher at one point last year. It hit us both that the child hadn’t been thumb sucking in a while.
And I remember the first week the one let me sleep through the night (not that *I* slept through the night. I kept hearing “nee-nee” (the sound of the alarm) in my head. The kids teased me endlessly about that.
And when the one stopped puking?!?! THAT was big!
What about how one had only vowels when he got here, almost NO consonants AT ALL! For that matter, we didn’t understand ANY of them at all at first.
Oh, and I have to post the audio one day of one little. We were at a restaurant and a creature was made out of a napkin. Kiddo was so upset about leaving the monster that we enlisted the waitress’ help to give the monster a new home. The napkin monster was put in a cave with others like himself The child’s sweet little voice! I never want to lose that audio!
I really wish I had taped more of all of them. Some of the grammar and accent and articulation mistakes were so cute. I wish some of them hadn’t irritated me so much. They were gone so quickly.
And the fits the one child used to throw were ADORABLE and heart-breaking. Kiddo just was a scared, sad and angry. Why wasn’t I more understanding? Or maybe the fits were needed. And they gave me insight into what my dear child was thinking. I wasn’t the “real” mom. They’d never say that now. Then the fits went to pure anger, screaming, freaking out. But it was what was needed then too. I can’t picture this child doing it now. But did I notice when they ended?
The one that got me was the fit recently (note: in Aug 2012) thrown by another one though. 20 minutes of all out SCREAMING. I (well, and two other kids) just were THERE. No one tried to stop it. That child had NEVER done anything of the sort. Maybe it was finally *safe* to? Maybe it was a test? I don’t know. I do know that it was handled well.
There are neat things from all sorts of areas where they have learned so much. Learning academics and eating like humans at the table. Two have been without training wheels for months and the third is ready (third has learned). They need reminders but keep up their rooms and ask for chores. Two can shower almost independently.
The sweet kids shine through.
You know…we may still have PLENTY to work on. But in 15 months (now 24), they really grew by leaps and bounds. They probably were capable of more if I hadn’t messed up so much. But it is a learning process for ALL of us. We can all grow together
Yes, though they drive me batty sometimes and we go through these spurts of craziness, my children are absolutely awesome, progressing so incredibly much. They amaze me daily. I am so blessed even on a tough day.